Selfish or Benevolent Influence?
Around 1970, a California State Assemblyman wanted to divorce his wife of 25 years without suffering the fair consequences of his action. Apparently, he wanted his wife to suffer those consequences instead.
So, he used his influence to change the divorce laws. I understand she died broke and he went on to live his life out in luxury with his paramour.
Bait and Switch: The Bait
Bilateral No-fault divorce was sold to the legislators.
- Fault based divorce requires fighting to fix blame on somebody. Bilateral would let couples divorce peacefully on their terms.
- Fault based divorces were acrimonious making reconciliation less likely.
- Fault based divorces were costly.
And, of course, most all of this was one big legislative fraud.
Once bilateral no-fault divorce was put into law, it was quickly converted to unilateral no-fault.
If I am not mistaken, I understand this is the one law Governor Reagan regretted most signing into law. And it poisoned the rest of the nation.
The only winners were the attorneys.
Bait and Switch: The Switch
- Unilateral no-fault allows unfaithful spouses and their lovers to rob and punish the faithful while they’re trying to save the marriage.
- Unilateral no-fault robs the faithful and their children of their right to live together in the shared family home enjoying the shared family assets.
- Unilateral no-fault encourages the spouse at fault to file a temporary restraining order to obtain the property and children.
- Temporary possession becomes unjustly permanent.
- Temporary custody becomes unjustly permanent.
- While the courts pretend that justice is not the goal but the well-being of the children is, the courts destroy both.
- The faithful are not allowed to express opinions of disagreement with the injustice under threat of losing child custody.
- The faithful, losing custody, must pay child support to the ones who robbed them unjustly.
- The threat of injustice compels the faithful to pay an attorney who provides them with false hope that justice will prevail.
- Suicides among divorcing couples and children are higher.
- Academic failure is more likely for the children.
- Early promiscuity is more likely for the children.
- Future marital failures are more likely for the children.
- Drug abuse is more likely for children of divorce.
- And children are not as resilient as some people try to say.
The Influence We Really Need
We need influence to reverse this bane on society.
- We should demand our rights. Without apology. Without asking permission. Without seeking approval. We are the ones being violated.
- We should demand that the state stop robbing the faithful and their children of their property and their right to live together in the shared family dwelling in love without molestation from the state. And we should never soften that message or apologize for it.
- We should demand the state stop prostituting justice in the courts holding out their hands for money while threatening the faithful and their children with injustice. The cowardice of this is unforgivable, unethical, unreasonable.
- We should demand the courts stop gaslighting and stop retaliating like cowards against those who ask fair and reasonable questions or call for honest justice rather than excuses.
- We should teach children and adults to honor their vows with integrity.
- We should teach children and adults to eschew the immorality that is shoved down everybody’s throats in the media, the news, and the schools.
- We should demand the right to remove our children from schools where this immorality is forced upon them.
- We should teach people to marry wisely, to prepare effectively and wisely, and not to value the ceremony more than the family and the promises made.
- What will you do today to influence your family for the best?
- What will you do this week, month, and year?
- Will you set a date to review what you have done and the impact it had?
What would you give up to help families become happier, healthier, and supportive?
Will you do it for the love of others?
Will you do it for the love of children?