Set Aside Time to Pray for Family

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PrayerPray, pray, pray

  • Pray for your family.
  • Labor in prayer.
  • Seek God what to pray for.
  • As Him to bless your family.

But, why? Isn't this setting yourself up for disappointment? Isn't prayer something you do when nothing else works? Read on to find out why prayer helps!

Pray for your husband or wife first of all.

Many people say to pray for your children and love them first.  It is sad to say this, but many people harm their marriages and hurt their children by putting them first.  It is both a common and a serious mistake.  Many wise people have said that children need the security of knowing their parents love each other more than they need their parents to love them.  And, as unpopular and religiously arrogant as it may seem, nobody can love their spouses, their children, or anyone else more than they love God.

Pray for your spouse.  Pray for health, protection, wisdom, deepening of love and character and strength.  Pray for them to grow in love for God.  If your spouse is not saved, pray for salvation.  If your spouse has problems forgiving someone, pray for healing.  If there is an addiction or serious problem, pray for that, but pray.

When you pray for your family, what happens?

Some people say prayer doesn't change your situation;  it changes you.  I disagree.  I strongly believe it changes both.  By changing you and your attitude and deepening your love and focusing your attention outward, you are strengthened tremendously.  It will affect how you interact with other people.  It will affect your expectations for them and of them.  It can make you less irritable and even if your marriage is on the rocks and your family is grouchy, it can turn things around.

Second, and more importantly, when your relationship with God is healthy, you don't need external situations to get better to have faith, hope, love, and spiritual strength.  Furthermore, you put yourself into a better position to receive answers to prayer.  If you're grouchy and snappy with God, you may make it difficult or unwise for God to answer your prayer, and He may hold back until your attitude with Him is right.  This is not because He is being mean to you, but because He doesn't want you to have second best.  He knows if you get what you want, instant pain relief, instant solutions, etc., it may hurt you more than help you.  But, if you get in a right relationship with God, your answers just may flow swiftly like a river through your life, sometimes coming in ways you expect, and sometimes through miserable trials and tribulations.  But, you'll be amazed at the way God's wisdom is so much greater than ours.

Pray for your children

Pray for your children the way you pray for your husband or wife.  Pray for blessings, wisdom, deeper love, courage, protection, health, success in their endeavors.  Pray for their eternal soul.  Pray they receive Jesus as Lord and Savior.  You would be surprised how often people neglect the eternal well being of their loved ones in the name of tolerance.  But, when a family is going through tough times, while this is never cause to blame and accuse and condemn and fight, it is often a strong indication that there is need for time with God and repentance from sin, and humility.

Pray for yourself

The Bible tells us to be slow to anger, slow to speak and fast to listen.  Often we just want to be heard.  We want to be understood.  What we often don't realize is that people are more likely to listen to us sooner and understand us better if we will listen to them.  Also, people often learn faster when we teach by asking questions humbly rather than shouting or competing to be heard.  And this comes down to praying for ourselves.  Surrendering ourselves.  Humbling ourselves and praying.

By surrendering to God, we set an example for our spouses and our children of humility.  We become more loving, more trustworthy.  They have less reason to become angry and rebellious and mean.  Now, please don't misunderstand this to mean that cruelty is the fault of the victim here.  But, where there is an opportunity to turn things around, I do not want to hold back any advice that might help a person gain the ability to do that.  This is about acquiring an ability, a skill, a competency in turning things around.  It is not about blame.

Set aside time with God to pray.  Be intimate with God in your heart.  Be open with Him about everything, your feelings, your thoughts, your difficulties, but also spend time thinking about the blessings that God brings to your life and your family even in the midst of the worst possible times and how He enables you to come through it victoriously. We don't always come through victorously, but we can if we will let God carry us through.

Pray fervently and effectually for your marriage and your family

Pray as though your family depends on it.  Pray for breakthrough, that things won't stay as they are, that marriages would be blessed and stop being destroyed.  Pray for churches, for pastors to become wise and competent and godly concerning faithfulness in marriage and will stop explaining away God's desires and stop pandering to the unfaithful and will have the courage, love, and integrity to say what needs to be said to keep people from perishing into hell and unfaithfulness and sin.  Pray, pray, pray, and don't let up until the prayer is clearly answered, and then pray again to give thanks!!!

But, don't let up.  When you pray with your family to give thanks for meals, give at least a little prayer for families and marriage and for your church.  Don't ramble and keep everyone's necks crimped downward for an excessively long time, and don't put them to sleep waiting half starved and unfocused to take their first bite of their meal, but at least touch on the issue with God in prayer and set an example for your family.

Pray for other families and marriages

Pray for families and marriage and faithfulness.  Don't use prayer to condemn others, but don't spare, and don't be afraid to make someone in adultery squirm or fear or worry or be offended because that may be needed to save their soul from sin and turn them back to Christ once again.  Because if the adulterous don't change, for sure they will perish into hell regardless of how religious they and others may feel they are.

Pray, pray, pray, pray, pray.  When will you do that?  When will you start?  How often will you do this?  Can you do it now?  Can you start now?

Thank you so much!